Ahh! The Ex. What can we all say about the subject? Plenty I'm sure.
Some believe that remaining friends with the Ex is the way to go while others think that its certainly not good for the ego and/or self image. I definitely belong to the latter group. This is possibly because I have seen 'friendships' with exes go really, really bad especially when one partner finds a new romance and I have personally experienced it as well.
I happen to think that an ex and a current partner make strange bedfellows - especially when you're caught in the middle! Besides, an ex knows secrets about you and this is a dangerous thing... Guys, your ex is the girl who saw you weep when a CGI of a Giant Ape (also known by the rather ridiculous name of King Kong) fell to his death from the Empire State Building in a movie. Girls, how can you 'safely' remain friends with someone who can tell everyone you know that your secret talent is the ability to stuff an entire roti canai in your mouth while humming the tune from Jaws (Husband's ex can actually do this!).
If we're really honest with ourselves, we'll admit that if the friendship ever goes awry, as friendships sometimes do, an ex has enough dirt on us to bury us alive with this kind of 'reputation-ruining' information. Rarely (if ever) is a broken romance fertile ground for friendship to bloom - that's what I think anyway..
The column tomorrow is all about this issue. The Ex - friendship material or better left in the past? What do you think?