Has anyone noticed how men always back each other up? From lying for their friends to keeping secrets, 'the boys' seem to have an unspoken bond (dubbed the Brotherhood) which is virtually impossible to break. Just ask them for the details of a bachelor party or even a boy's night out and you'll know what I mean.
I wish I could say the same about the Sisterhood. I think we have to admit that the Sisterhood needs a boost. I don't deny that we ladies do support each other but behind all those heart to heart chats over cups of Starbucks coffee, The Green Eyed Monster can lurk dangerously close to the surface. From what I've observed, the inhabitants of Venus find it a lot harder to deal with rivalry and jealousy than Martians do.
Men compete on the playing field and at work but the buck stops there. They're able to live up to the "its not personal its business" motto.
The Sisterhood, on the other hand only seems to work well if we're all united against a common enemy to support a good cause (hence the success of various women's groups.) However, when we're left to our own devices its a different ballgame.
Successful working women seem disinclined to help their female underlings. In fact instead of backing each other up, these women tend to be threatened by ambitious women like themselves. I have come really close to strangling certain Lady Bosses who take unconcealed pleasure in tormenting rather than teaching their female underlings. Only the horror of prison (and those unspeakable outfits they make the inmates wear) has kept me in check!
In the relationship arena I think the bonds of brotherhood prevail. For example, if his friend cheats on his wife, it’s the wife’s fault. “She must have been some sort of control freak, that’s why he had to look elsewhere for companionship.” If the wife cheats on his friend it’s still her fault. “What a slut. He’s better off without her.”
Not so with women. If the man cheats, it’s the woman’s fault for not knowing how to keep her man. If she cheats on him, it’s her fault for not trying harder. All right, maybe the judgment isn’t always that harsh but I don’t think I’m totally off track either.
Don't get me wrong, I adore the depth and emotional support of female friendship. Which woman can live without it? I just happen to think that we still have a long way to go before we have a true connection that has nothing to do with men or with anything other than the fact that we’re women. But is this just all in my head? Do tell me what you think....