Saturday, December 29, 2007

Happy New Year!

I cannot believe that it's resolution time again! I just calculated how old I'm going to be in 2008 and I've decided that I've finally reached the age that I'm going to be for the rest of my life. As far as I'm concerned, I'm not getting any older - ever - no siree!

It just seems overwhelming and a little frightening how quickly time moves. I remember back when I was a child when an evening out in the sun seemed to last for hours when it was really only between four and six o'clock.

Now... I look at the clock and it's ten in the morning. I blink and it's 3pm! Years are screeching by at top speed!

I've often felt that New Year's resolutions are a waste of time and an activity in futility since you're only setting yourself up for failure. Everyone knows that gyms are always SO FULL in January and gradually dwindle down to the hardcore fitness freaks by March. So why make resolutions?

This time, I've had a slight change of heart and decided that there's going to be one major resolution for 2008. Since I'm older (sob!) and wiser (yay!) I think I'll keep it short and meaningful.

The following is part of a message that was sent to me by a dear friend. It's called Let It Go by T.D Jakes. I don't know who T.D Jakes is but he certainly captured my wish and resolution for 2008.

There are people who can walk away from you.
And hear me when I tell you this!
When people can walk away from you: let them walk.

I don't want you to try to talk another person into staying with you,
loving you, calling you, caring about you, coming to see you,
staying attached to you.
I mean hang up the phone.

When people can walk away from you let them walk.
Your destiny is never tied to anybody that left.

People leave you because they are not joined to you.
And if they are not joined to you,
you can't make them stay.
Let them go

And it doesn't mean that they are a bad person,
it just means that their part in the story is over.
And you've got to know when people's
part in your story is over so that you
don't keep trying to raise the dead.

You've got to know when it's dead.
You've got to know when it's over.
Let me tell you something.
I've got the gift of good-bye.
It's the tenth spiritual gift,
I believe in good-bye.

It's not that I'm hateful, it's that I'm faithful,
and I know whatever God means for me to have
He'll give it to me.
And if it takes too much sweat I don't need it.
Stop begging people to stay.
Let them go!!

If you are holding on to something
that doesn't belong to you and was never intended for your life,
then you need to ..LET IT GO!!!

If you are holding on to past hurts and pains ...


If someone can't treat you right, love you back, and see your worth...

If someone has angered you .....

If you are holding on to some thoughts of evil and revenge ..

If you are involved in a wrong relationship or addiction ..

If you are holding on to a job that no longer meets your needs or
talents ..

If you have a bad attitude...


If you keep judging others to make yourself feel better...

If you're stuck in the past and God is trying to take you to a new
level in Him...

If you are struggling with the healing of a broken relationship.....


If you keep trying to help someone who won't even try to help

If you're feeling depressed and stressed ....

If there is a particular situation that you are so used to handling
yourself and God is saying "take your hands off of it," then you need to...

Let the past be the past.
Forget the former things.
GOD is doing a new thing for
2008 !!!

HAPPY NEW YEAR EVERYBODY! Here's wishing all of you the Brightest, Most Beautiful year and all things shiny and hopeful.


Wednesday, December 19, 2007

Eye of cicak and Leg of kodok

It's almost Christmas but a Dear Friend of mine seems to have missed Santa's Little Helper and run into Satan's Little Helper instead...

Dear Friend recently moved into a rented house with two friends. She's known these two for quite some time. The 3 got along famously so there shouldn't be any problems living under the same roof, right? Wrong! It took just a few weeks for Dear Friend to realize that she'd made the mistake of signing a deal ( in this case the lease to a house) with Satan's Little Helper!

One of the housemates (i.e Satan's Little Helper) has two dogs (the itty-bitty Paris Hilton-ey kind from what I gather) and keeps them locked up in his room all day, every day! He's hardly ever at home (his job keeps him out of the house for hours at a time and sometimes into the wee hours of the morning)

This is just plain cruelty toward animals. The dogs whine and cry in SLH's room whenever Dear Friend is at home and her heart breaks everytime she hears them. Because of their strange living conditions neither one of the dogs use the potty properly and wee all over the place whenever they're allowed out of their prison cell aka SLH's bedroom.

So, not only has Dear Friend got to listen to the poor dogs crying, she's got to put up with dog wee inside the house as well - phew! SLH, meanwhile, seems to have no problems with the whole situation and was very flippant (and annoyed) when Dear Friend talked to him about the sorry scenario.

She's really at her wit's end and my heart goes out to her. She thought about alerting the SPCA but we all know what happens to dogs/cats who aren't adopted within a short period - they're put down. I don't know which is worse - giving the two dogs a slim chance at the SPCA or keeping them alive but unhappy with SLH?

Some choices just aren't easy.

This made me think about how little we really know the people we think we know. SLH seemed like a decent sort to Dear Friend until she shared living space with him. Now she just wants to strangle him.

If a friendship can so easily go to the dogs (no pun intended) what chance do marriages have? At least Dear Friend has an option of moving out of the house. No messy divorce, no division of assets, no lawyer's fees. Marriages aren't that easy to escape from.

I used to think that people who advocated living together before tying the knot were spewing rubbish but now I'm beginning to wonder...maybe they had it right all along?

Who knows? Your partner may seem so together and wonderful out in public or when they're alone with you for relatively short periods of time. Meanwhile, unbeknown to you, a cauldron with eye of cicak (lizard) and leg of kodok(toad) could be smoldering in their bedroom, ready to dish out to unsuspecting victims. If you're really unlucky - you could be unknowingly ingesting some yourself!

Pyschos, black-magic practitioner's and assorted other wackos have an inexplicable talent for appearing perfectly normal in public. You'll only find out that they might be Satan's Little Helper when it's too late. Unfortunately, there are times when tying the knot really is akin to tying a noose around your neck!

If you really can't bring yourself to live together with your intended before you make it legal (personally, I couldn't!), may I suggest that you take a long (at least a week) holiday alone with this person? After all, even Satan's Little Helper would find it difficult to hide their evil ways for an extended period of time!

So beware boys and girls... your chunk of hunk or delicious doll may not be all that they seem...don't say I didn't warn you!

satan courtesy of

Thursday, December 06, 2007

The Vaguely Vulgar Girls

If there's anything I dislike it's women who are unnecessarily 'touchy-feely' with your boyfriend/husband.

There are two important categories when it comes to social interactions and platonic relationships between the sexes : Nice and Decent or Vaguely Vulgar. Vaguely Vulgar Girls are just over the invisible line that separates the two.

VVGs play their cards just right. They slip a hand around a man's waist for no apparent reason and leave it there for just a moment too long. They make a perfectly innocent comment but lean really close to his ear to say it. They lay a hand on his shoulder as they throw their heads back and laugh hysterically at his (probably bad) jokes. Some of the more brazen hussies will make like a Roman toga and drape themselves all over the man ....

The trickiest part of all this is that these annoying little performances take place right in front of the man's partner. The wife/girlfriend is left with little choice but to watch and fume inwardly. What's a woman to do? If she kicked up a fuss to her man, she'd come across as a pathetic, insecure, jealous female. Worse still if she confronted the VVG. With practiced fluidity the VVG would inform her that it's all innocent and in the name of friendship.

In all this the man in question will - predictably - do little if anything to throw the VVG off his personal space. Let's face it, which man is going distance himself from a woman who seems to be 'harmlessly' flirting? After all, any chance he gets to inflate that overly sensitive and quick-to-deflate ego of his is a chance he's not going to pass up.

After a decade of arguments and ulcers, I've recently realized that VVGs come and go like the breeze. There's ALWAYS going to be a woman somewhere who is so full of self-doubt that she'll flirt with every man within a 5km radius. She's not going to bother her insecure self with little details like whether the man is attached or not.

This type of blase attitude among VVGs used to throw me in a fit but it has dawned upon me that while VVGs can make you want to scream with aggravation, they're rarely vindictive or vicious. Their annoying little performances generally don't go any further.

The women to really watch out for are the ones who seem to have wings sprouting out of their backs and a halo over their heads. These types know what they are capable of behind the scenes and take extra precaution to appear holier-than-thou in public.

That's why I've concluded that VVGs are the lesser of two evils. So, everytime you're confronted with a one in your vicinity (I do this too) just calmly repeat to yourself: "VVGs aren't vicious, VVGs aren't vicious" Then, as the night ends, make sure you catch her eye, give her a (smug) smile, hold hands with the man she's been flirting with all night and casually stroll away.

pics courtesy of and

Tuesday, December 04, 2007

I Don't Love Small Cities!

I can't believe I'm back in The Land Of No Aldo. I had SUCH a fantastic time in South Africa - Cape Town and Johannesburg.

Cape Town is unbelievably beautiful. It was all mountains and ocean and came complete with all those snooty types lounging about on the 'better' beaches. Many looked like they had been plastic surgeon-ed to within an inch of their lives but it made great people-watching material (you could spend your time sipping your wine and playing 'spot the person with the most plastic' all evening)

Johannesburg was a different affair. It's an enormous, impersonal city but I'm a city girl and I can handle it. Even the traffic jams didn't seem so terrible because all the roads were fully tar-ed! Imagine that!

Like icing on a cake the weather was cool, cool, cool! In fact, Jo'berg was rather cold and it rained a lot of the time but I didn't care. I was 10 minutes away from a mall - it any direction. Woo hoo!

Yes, it was glorious to be back in civilization for a while. It was so good that I had to hold back tears when I left (plus The Engineer and I met up with two of our really, really good South African friends and I have no idea when we'll see them again).I wished really hard (eyes tightly shut) that we would somehow, magically, be able to extend the trip for another week.

Wishing isn't going to make it happen so here I am again back in Tanzania. Hot, shimmering sun, dusty roads and no malls to speak of.... and I'll have to go back to brainwashing myself that The Land of no Aldo is something that I can live with....sigh!